First up is Sarah Dowling who currently lives in Bologna, where she teaches English and writes two blogs: Italy Project 365 and Bologna With Love.
Sarah was born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia and when she was 18, she headed to Providence, Rhode Island to attend Providence College where she studied accounting, Italian and completed her MBA. Now she's been living in Italy since 2012....here's her story:
When and why did you first come to Italy?
I first came to Italy to study abroad in Florence in the fall of 2009. I had been studying Italian language as a minor at my college and had always been fascinated by Italy. So naturally, I chose a city in Italy to complete my semester abroad and I absolutely loved it! I wanted to move back so badly that after graduating from graduate school in 2012, I decided to come back and live in Italy permanently.
What was the most difficult thing to get used to?
I think we are very spoiled with “convenience” in the U.S., so coming to Italy where going shopping is nowhere near as convenient and easy as shopping in the U.S. was difficult. I remember having to go to five different stores to finish all my weekly shopping. I think now larger supermarkets are becoming more popular in Italy, but they still don’t offer the same variety that we have in the U.S. You have to go to this market to buy cheese, this store to buy batteries, another shop to buy soap, and so on…
What do you love most about living in Italy?
For me, I love the lifestyle here. There is a stronger
appreciation for sharing a meal together or even just meeting a friend over a cup
of coffee. It’s all about relationships and human interaction. You go to a
coffee bar and everyone is chatting – sometimes there isn’t even WiFi so
sitting on your computer alone just isn’t an option! I think that’s something
we often miss or forget to nourish in the U.S. I also just love the fact that I'm constantly learning something new in a foreign place.
What do you miss the most from home?
OH, definitely the people! I miss my family and friends a
lot. I really wish I had the power of teleporting. Then my life would be
perfect.
What do you think is the hardest part about living in a different country?
I think being away from family and friends can be really
challenging. Also learning to cope with reverse culture shock is something you
have to get used to (in fact I recently wrote a blog post about reverse culture
shock and some of my most dreaded questions that I get when I go back home (here). There are a lot of times when I return home and my instinct is to immediately
compare everything to Italy - but you can’t do that because you’ll end up
either offending someone or boring them to death.
What have you found to be the biggest difference between Italy and the U.S.?
The people. Americans have a tendency to plan out every moment
of their day and we often complain at the slightest inconvenience just
because we’re so used to having everything easy and readily available at our
fingertips. We also tend to just go along with the rules and abide by the laws
without thinking twice about it. Italians are more relaxed. They plan things at
the last minute and can improvise. Convenience isn’t so important for Italians
as is quality and they’re used to having to wait for things or work harder to
make something happen. When there is a rule or law they tend to ask “why?" and
then make a decision based on their own reasoning. I’m not saying that
Americans are dumb and Italians are criminals, but just that we are used to
handling things differently.
Beppe Severnigni wrote a fantastic book called La
Bella Figura (on Amazon here)
that I think explains this Italian mindset really well.
What Italian habits or mannerisms, if any, have you adopted?
Well apart from drinking lots of espresso every day (I’ve
always loved coffee so this wasn’t difficult for me to catch on to), I find
that I’m much more aggressive. I don’t mean that I’m a meaner person, but just
that I’m much less passive. In Italy if you want to cross the street you can’t
just wait at the sidewalk until a car stops for you; you have to tell them that
you want to cross by beginning to cross. Another example is that if I’m waiting
to be seated at a restaurant and I notice that someone cuts in front of me, I
immediately say something because if I don’t, Italians will walk all over me
and probably even take advantage of the fact that I’m a foreigner. Before
coming to Italy, I probably would have sat back passively and nothing would have
ever gotten done.
What's your favorite Italian meal?
I love everything, but the one thing I never get tired of is
pizza. A good pizza margherita with
fresh tomato sauce, basil, and bufala mozzarella is like heaven on a plate for
me.
Do friends or family back home ever ask you questions about when you're coming home or what exactly it is that you're doing in Italy, etc? And if so, is there one that bothers you more than others?
Well again, I recently wrote a blog post about my most
dreaded questions about Italy,
where I explain a lot more about this topic. I think if I had to choose one
question, it would be “When are you coming home?” because it’s a question that
assumes so much. I know they mean well, but for me it sounds like they
can’t imagine me having a life elsewhere.
How did you learn to speak Italian?
Many, many years of practice. I started learning at University (I minored in Italian) but when I arrived in Italy I could barely
speak, even though I knew a lot of the grammar. I learned a lot on the street,
meeting Italian friends and having Italian boyfriends, but I would say a good
portion of my learning took place when I studied for five months in Bologna at
an intensive language school.
Where is your favorite place to travel in Italy?
I love it all, but for different reasons. For the beaches, I
love Sicily. In terms of sheer beauty, I think the area near Positano and the
Amalfi Coast is amazing – it’s a little piece of paradise down there! For the
mountains, the Dolomites and the region of Trentino Alto-Adige is spectacular.
Favorite thing to do?
Eating and hiking! I recently visited Positano and went
hiking through some of the trails there. We would stop and have lunch in the
little towns and it was the perfect combination! Whenever I travel to a
new city in Italy, I always have to find the best places to eat and usually my
travel itinerary is centered around food. I just think the variety is so
wonderful and should be explored beyond the standard Italian dishes.
Thank you so much, Sarah!
Thanks for the interview Sophie! Love your blog - keep up the good work! xx Sarah
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